I am reading a book entitled “Hope for the Caregiver” by Peter Rosenberger and was reading the chapter on loss of identity. It brought back memories of the time I was caring for my papa. I remember telling my pastor once that when my papa passed away I wasn’t sure that I would know who I was anymore because our lives were so intertwined.
The author was sharing about the deprivation of attention and interaction of many caregivers. As a result “oversharing” can happen. Hahahahaha……I remember a time when I was able to leave my house by myself for a much needed excursion to Walmart for some medical products for Papa. It was later in the evening.
I remember the cashier politely asked how I was doing. I looked behind me and saw no one there. I drew a deep breath and then proceeded to tell her my whole life shift as a caregiver. I thanked her for asking, and took my medical products and went on my way feeling much lighter. I’m not sure she knew what hit her!
Those days are long behind me now, and I surprisingly did rediscover my identity. In fact, I liked my new identity that was born out of such hardship. I saw a quote today that read “The struggle you’re in today is developing the strength you need for tomorrow.” I am stronger.
My journey as a caregiver, while intense, only lasted 2 1/2 years. Peter Rosenberger is still on his journey, just under 30 years, caring for his precious wife. I recommend “Hope For thr Caregiver” for caregivers especially, but any reader will benefit.
